Lessons Learned

One of my, “Timmy’s rules”; If you are the teacher, you by necessity make the rules, you have to draw a line in the sand with limits on the student, or you will be consumed by the takers. If you are the student – shut up and study until you can show yourself approved. Your questions reveal your commitment to the study.

I was once asked by a friend for advice on a situation. I gave him clear instructions on what I would do if it were me. He did nothing. Next time I saw him he started complaining about the same situation he had asked for my advice about two weeks prior.

I asked him: “Did you do what I told you last time?”

Answer: “No”

“Then why should I stand here and listen to you again complain about the same problem that you have done nothing to resolve?”

Answer –silence

“I won’t listen to your complaining anymore, nor will I offer anymore new advice about that issue until you go and do as I suggested last time”

This situation created to consequences. The first consequence, because of his inaction he failed to move his legal rights and process, which resulted in a deterioration of his rights and more time for his adversary to move against him. The second consequence I had wasted my time and missed doing something to take care of or enjoying my own life. It was unprofitable for both of us because neither of us valued my time or experience.

It is a good example of being unprepared for what life throws at you. When the unexpected happens and you are not prepared for that it tends to cause panic. Panic tends to cause in action. Inaction tends to result in bad consequences. As I have heard an old military buddy repeat one of those military sayings; don’t just stand there make a decision to do something and do it even if it might be wrong. Or something like that. The point is that anything’s better than standing there as a target.

Most of the so-called legal issues we are confronted with, result from an illusion of our relationship with a so-called government agent or employee. When it is presumed by both parties that agent automatically has authority over you or me, the agent tends to take advantage of the second party. Because the conditioning of both parties is so deep, quite often neither party will recognize an evil being done by the agent. So if you were my friend coming to me and asking what to do about the agent I would offer that you should examine carefully the relationship. I would want to know specifically by what authority the agent was granted the right to create a duty for me and compel me by ordering me or threatening me with consequences if I act or fail to act in the manner the agent wishes.

Those in the know have a saying “know who you are” or alternately “know who you are not” or even “who others are not”. What it boils down to is; what is your specific relationship with a particular man or thing. Who can stand on the higher authority? One man can simultaneously be a son, a father, a husband, an employer, an employee, a friend, an adversary, a creditor, and a debtor. Each status depends on who or what he is in relationship with and what is that specific relationship. So establish in your own mind who or what particular party you are in relation with and in what type of relationship. Often in situations there is more than one relationship at play. Even in court you may have to wear more than one hat. You could be trustee one moment over one issue, and have no business there on another issue depending on how you respond to their offers or implications. if you are going to go into court and act contrary to your papers, the so-called legal papers are better used as pet cage liner.

Alleged authority can be deceptive. For example I have authorized my wife to take $1 million from everybody she meets. I could really use the cash flow. After all I have authorized her, why does she not bring more bags home that are full of millions of dollars. Oh, that’s right, how can i be so foolish, I cannot create a duty for someone else unless I have higher authority over them when I authorized my wife. Apparently they see no duty to give her the million dollars.

So consider one of my favorite questions; “By what authority do you……………….”

The wise man prepares and the fool goes his way blindly

Your friend

Tim